Nofap is not Enough — Channeling Sexual Energy Properly

We humans are sexual beings. Being a lifeform kind of requires you to be sexual. Even if you’re a single-celled organism that reproduces by dividing itself, this action requires a bunch of resources. I’d argue that two-sexed organisms like humans require even more resources for reproduction than one-sexed single-celled organisms do because we have to also deal with sexual selection, seeking a mate, pregnancy, and caring for our offspring.

Semen retention redirects massive amounts of energy that would otherwise go towards those sexual pursuits (for example, seeking a mate or the production of certain sexual hormones or sperm) into other things. The body is not stupid. If there are extra resources, they are redirected smartly. Evolutionarily speaking, it would make sense for the body to focus on making sure that even if reproduction is not happening right at this very instant, it will happen in the future. So, we retainers become more sexually selectable. I’ve already written about sexual magnetism on semen retention and will surely come back to that topic later, but with this post I want to focus on something a bit different. Many retainers make the mistake of thinking that if they only don’t release their seed, they are retaining all the sexual energy they can, but that is not the case. Channeling that energy into other pursuits is the key.

Channeling Sexual Energy

What do I mean by “channeling” exactly? It’s quite simple, really. Instead of doing something related to reproduction, you do something else productive. For example, instead of spending energy and resources going to a bar and seeking ONS, you write a blog article, like I’m doing right now. But so many don’t really understand how crucial this is. I know because it didn’t really click for me for the longest time. I was a nofapper, and the weakness of the nofap lifestyle compared to the semen retention lifestyle is that it allows the sexual energy to be spent on sexual pursuits.

I’ll go back to my first ever “streak” to make the point. At that time, I didn’t even know about nofap; actually, I don’t think the term even existed back then. I had heard that not fapping could have some benefits. I think I got a hint from a friend of mine. The problem was that I also had a bunch of misinformation about how to go about it. I thought that simply not ejaculating would do the trick, so I still watched porn and even edged. That led to me being so frustrated that I was climbing on the walls. The horniness level was off the charts. I went to bars and tried to score hookups. I ended up blowing a load while edging about 30 days in. I thought this was the norm; the pressure builds until you can’t hold it. Needless to say, the benefits weren’t the most palpable, although I’m sure there were some. At least I felt actually horny, which I hadn’t really felt for a while, while engaging in relentless cumming.

Fast forward a couple of years, and I had now heard about nofap via Reddit and was doing my first real nofap streak. No edging or porn. The first 60 or so days went great, but the problem was that I didn’t understand that to really retain sexual energy, you need to stop all sexual pursuits. So I went to a bar and got myself a hookup. I hooked up with that girl several times during the following weeks and kept chasing more poontang on the side. (Sidenote: I was into PUA back then and didn’t care about getting into a relationship, so I simply let that budding relationship fade away.) I started to run into problems. My life had been transforming in those first two months, but now it seemed that I had run into bad luck. The no-fap streak lasted for 120 days in total, but during that time I wasn’t able to get another hookup and kept running into bad luck. At around 110 days, I had a lady cut me off in a food store line, and I couldn’t do anything about it but fume and storm off after packing my items. I was almost holding back tears. I didn’t have much masculinity left in me. Where did it all go? Where did that energy and sexual magnetism suddenly disappear? Back then, I didn’t understand it. I was still on nofap, after all. After that relapse at around 120 days, I fell back into my old habits for a while, but I’d go back to nofap many, many times during the following years. I had now realized that nofap had power, but it took me years to realize that the constant pursuit of sex was sucking all that energy away. I was a sex addict and in denial.

Monk Mode

Recently, I’ve quit all sexual pursuits. I’m on my first ever pure intentional semen retention streak. As I’m writing this article, I’m on day 86, and let me tell you, I feel like a different being. My energy is off the charts; I’m not constantly horny or climbing on the walls. I’m able to direct that energy to whatever I want to prioritize. I intend to go on like this, in monk mode, until I’ve undone all the years of damage the rampant sexual addiction did to my life, until I’ve corrected my course and realized some of my long-term financial, mental health, and lifestyle goals. Then, I can start seeking a long-term partner because, ultimately, I don’t want to live alone. But I won’t be seeking that relationship in pursuit of sex alone. Ideally, it will be a more holistic experience. My standards for my future mate will be pretty damn high as well. But for now, it’s not near the top of my list of priorities.

Sexual Pursuits That Will Set You Back

So, what are those habits that will set your semen retention back? Anything that has to do with pursuing sex, for starters. Going to bars, doing any kind of cold approach or PUA stuff (that stuff is pretty toxic, by the way, and you don’t need it. You don’t need to learn to be a pick-up artist to find a partner, trust me.) Dating apps are another energy sink. Delete, delete, delete. You won’t miss them. They will spike dopamine and waste a huge amount of time. Really, if you’re retenting, what are you even doing swiping? It’s pointless. Then there’s social media. Ask yourself: Are you on social media for any true purpose? Is the time spent there getting you closer to your goals? Social media sites such as Tik-tok, Instagram, and others are designed to keep you addicted and scrolling just a bit longer. They also use your sexuality to keep you addicted. Every time you see a sexy thumbnail on your feed and decide to go for it, you are engaging your sexual reward system and wasting your energy and drive. It’s extreme to say in today’s day and age, but I’ve quit almost all social media sites. I only use two, and I use them mindfully. YouTube I use for information and (wholistic) entertainment, and some energy is unfortunately lost to blocking channels with sexualized or clickbaity content, but I’ve made a value judgment here. I use Medium because I’m a writer, and I want to get better at my craft and grow my audience. I don’t consume short-form “horizontal” clips such as YouTube shorts.

Conclusion

I hope I made it clear with this post that if you want to retain your sexual energy, it’s counterproductive to waste it on sexual pursuits. It’s good to set yourself a plan: how long do you want to retain, and what is your goal in terms of sexual relationships? Perhaps you want to swear them off for life. Many do, because they find how wonderful their lives become after retaining for a while. I still have the goal of finding a life partner for myself and perhaps starting a family, but I’m in no hurry, and when I finally decide to do it, I’ll go about it mindfully. I’ve realized how powerful sexual energy is, and it’s too precious to be wasted on having sex mindlessly, even if it’s in a long-term relationship.