I’m going to start this off boldly and claim that sexual magnetism on semen retention is 100 percent real. I’ve been on the journey of nofap and semen retention for over a decade, and while it’s just the subjective experience of one individual, the power of this phenomenon never fails to astonish me. In this article, I’ll dive into the topic, sharing my personal experiences and contemplating the possible reasons behind them.

Three Tiers of Attraction

This is an easy way to gauge your attractivity level: are you tier 1: unattractive; tier 2: average; or tier 3: attractive? When you come across a member of the opposite sex during your daily activities, what is the usual response? Do their eyes tend to ignore you, or when they do notice you, the attention tends to be negative: scowls, rapid eye movement to the side or up? You fall into tier 1: unattractive. If the attention you get seems to be neutral, you get some attention, and it’s not negative nor overly positive, more like looks of medium length with mostly blank expressions, you fall into the mid-category: tier 2: average. Tier 3 is colored by positive attention; people stare at you, and the opposite sex displays cues of attraction such as smiling and positive and open body language. When women interact with you, they tend to get closer into your personal space and laugh at everything you say. You say something you think is quite ordinary, and it’s received as if you are the funniest man alive. That’s attraction.

Believe it or not, that third tier is a daily reality for some lucky individuals. But what if I told you that you could make your own luck? I’m not claiming it’s possible to go from hobo-level attractiveness, where people try to run away from you like you just crawled out of the gutter and smell like you haven’t showered in a month, to celebrity attractiveness. Effort is required, and I’ve never quite have been far into tier 1. But I have experienced downright hostile reactions to my presence when things have been truly bad, and I’ve felt like an invincible man at times, with people literally bumping into me because they didn’t notice I existed. Going from that to a daily experience of noticing a gorgeous women noticing you and giving you smiles like it’s the most natural thing in the world — well, it might sound a bit unbelievable, but it’s my experience on semen retention nonetheless.

My Personal Experience

Incident 1: girl at the bar

To recount one of my most fantastical experiences I need to go back a decade, all the way to when I started doing no-fap in earnest. Back then, I had just discovered Reddit’s no-fap community, and I was on my first ever honest long streak. I had been in a slump for the past couple of years. I hadn’t gone out for some time, and I’ve let my appearances go down. I didn’t exercise, and my daily routine consisted of coming home from work, masturbating, playing video games, you know, all that stereotypical coomer lifestyle stuff. After I started the streak, my life started rapidly increasing: I started going to the gym again, and after a month or so, I started craving being social again. I went to some work-related events and actually talked to people. Now the thing I’m about to get to happened one weekend when I thought, To heck with it, and went to a bar for the first time in years. I picked up one of my old shirts; it was literally dusty and crumbled. It smelled a bit funny from being in the closet for so long. In all honesty, I didn’t think I looked the shit. But there I was on the dance floor, and I noticed a cute girl dancing in my viscinity. Just a coincidence? Maybe, maybe not. But all I needed to do was flash a smile at her and mumble something that she probably didn’t even hear, and we were dancing close. I later got her number and ended up sleeping with her a couple weeks later. That was the end of my first retention streak. What I’m trying to get at here is that I was positively socially rusty and had fallen into a serious slump. I wasn’t very attractive, and what happened to me at that bar came out of the blue. Just a coincidence? Maybe, but let’s continue.

Incident 2: Positive Eye Contact

Back then, I didn’t take semen retention very seriously and still tried to get that boonthang as regularly as I could, so I went to lots of bars and generally lived an unhealthier lifestyle than I could have been living. I won’t list every time a cute girl that I thought was way out of my league made me her star that night, but it happened more often than not during the longer streaks.

What I want to talk about are the every-day occurances that always seem to (intermittently at first) happen to me during the longer streaks I’ve been on. You might be going on about your day as usual; it seems just like an ordinary day, but this time you notice something different. You notice a beautiful woman, but instead of getting completely ignored like you’ve used to, it’s like you’ve been warped into an alternative universe: your eyes lock effortlessly, she clearly notices you, and for a second that feels way longer than a second, nothing else exists in the world but you and her. You notice a smile creeping on her face, and perhaps even more surprisingly, you notice yourself being completely in control: you aren’t feeling shy, but the smile between your two is mutual.

At this point, I can imagine the skeptics shaking their heads and saying, “He’s imagining things. He’s so horny he’s staring at women, and they are staring back in horror, giving him fake smiles as they run away as fast as they can.” Fine enough, but there are two things wrong with that accessment. First, I’m not horny. To be more clear, yes, during the longer streaks I’m sexually charged but not lecherous or perverted like I am when I’m not on a streak. And secondly, beautiful women don’t pay attention to people they don’t find attractive. They mostly ignore. And again, this is just my personal experience. If you’ve never experienced this, it might be difficult to imagine, but I swear, even if I know to expect it, it always pleasantly surprises me.

More than simply noticing you, women — and men as well, but in somewhat different fashion — seem to be more receptive to me. It’s almost impossible that someone doesn’t like me. Of course it happens, but those instances seem to be overpowered by the positives.

So, Why Does It Work?

Semen Retention Makes you More Focused, and Focused is Attractive

Everyone wants what they can’t have — this is just basic psychology. Needy is the opposite of attractive, and it’s also the opposite of focused. There is really no magic here. What is your feeling about people who never quite have time to look around or never seem to stop to wonder in confusion what to do next? Those people who always seem to be on target; they have an aura of mystery about them; they radiate accomplishment and confidence. When you shut your mind on such a huge area of the male psyche as sexual thoughts are, you are bound to become more focused. It’s always possible to fail your potential and start to take on other frivolous interests such as video games or watching too much anime online, to give some examples, but this isn’t my experience. My experience is that I always become more focused. Taking up journaling and goal-setting boosted this even more. When you retain your sexual energy, you become one of those mysterious and driven individuals that others look up to. Yes you!

“Those people that always seem to be on target; they have an aura of mystery about them; they radiate accomplishment and confidence.”

You are Happier, More Balanced Individual

Like attracts like. As the saying goes: Smile, and the world smiles back at you. Of course, it’s true. Birds of color flock together, and so on and on. People tend to mirror what they see. Have you ever noticed how easy it is to smile in pleasant, jovial company? If you are that company, people will smile with you. When your dopamine receptors are properly balanced and you are naturally exuding positive energy, you’ll get that back from the world. It’s that simple. You get what you give.

You Look Better

Maybe it’s the time and energy you have for grooming and exercising, or maybe it’s the other positive habits that seem to come with semen retention. If you have the willpower to resist the thing that’s enemating from the deepest core of your being — sexual urges — you surely have what it takes to forgo alcohol, unhealthy eating habits, and other things of that nature. Your skin will look healthier. The bags from under your eyes will dissipate; your eyes will shine in a different way — this is what I have heard from many retainers. You simply look healthier and younger, and that’s a cue for others to pay positive attention to you. It’s just natural.

On Esoteric

At the end, I’d like to dive a bit deeper into the waters, so to speak. I didn’t want to jump straight into the deep end, so I saved this bit for last. If you don’t care for this kind of stuff, you can stop reading now. That off the way, everything that exists is a vibration of differing frequencies. There is a deeper realm beneath and/or above what we can perceive with our limited senses. We are on a deeper, perhaps unconscious level, affected by this deeper reality. As one retains his sexual life force energy, he will raise his vibration, and others will sense that on a deeper level. They can’t quite tell what it is, but it might manifest as attraction, fear, or other emotions. You will also find for yourself as you progress on your journey that you are no longer yearning for lower-vibration activities or people. It’s not that you resent them for what they are; it’s just vibration; you pity them and want to help them raise up with you as well. When one goes long enough on the retention journey, the mind is almost guaranteed to turn into spiritual aspects. Of course, everyone chooses what they use their energy on; Mike Tyson used it to become the best knockout boxer of all time. But it can be other things as well. Only you can uncover that by going forward. Until next time, and Godspeed, everyone!

There is a deeper realm beneath and/or above what we can perceive with our limited senses. We are on a deeper, perhaps unconscious level, affected by this deeper reality. As one retains his sexual life force energy, he will raise his vibration, and others will sense that on a deeper level.